This creates a conflict with many white men, especially those from my generation (age 47) or older.
While it may be hard for two people from widely different intersections of race and gender to understand each other, it’s not impossible once the more privileged party (in this case, the white guy) is able to recognize their shortcomings and how the intersections of race and gender affect every aspect of a black woman’s life.
White men navigate society with relative ease while black women are teetering on the precarious margins of race and gender that they do not have the privilege to ignore.
This is not a game to us, nor is it something we can ignore.
Most white men are unaware of the microaggressions towards their black partner that make their chances for a second date slim to none.
Microaggressions are comments or actions that unintentionally alienate or demean a marginalized person or group.